Have you been wondering about when you should start sending your thank you notes to friends and family, for all of the neat presents you've received? Etiquette says, that the time for you to express your gratitude should be before your wedding, no more than two weeks after the gift arrives. If you receive gifts at your wedding or afterward, you have about two months after your honeymoon ends to mail them out.
The kind of paper you use for you thank you notes is really up to you. You could use plain note paper, simple note cards or ones made up to match the rest of your stationary. A fun idea for a note card, could be to have a photographer shoot a picture that can be printed on your cards or you could use a photo that you already have instead. Just be sure to have these cards printed up in advance before your big day.
Below are some suggestions on how to write your thank you notes:
Don't Do All Of Your Notes In One Sitting.
Trying to speed through 50 thank you notes in one evening, will make it seem like a never-ending chore. Instead try to do between 5 and 10 per day, so that you can take you time to write more thoughtful notes, in so doing, you won't feel like "you're under pressure."
Divide The Duty.
Since the gifts you'll be receiving are going to be shared with him, he can join in the responsibility of giving thanks as well. Ask him to take charge of sending out the notes to his friends and family. Regardless of who writes them, the cards should include both of your names in giving thanks: "Janice and I love the sheets you gave us."
Make It Fun.
If the thought of writing notes depresses you because you feel it's going to be boring, make it a fun experience by playing some music and sipping on your favorite drink. This will help to remove the monotony of the moment and it will lift your spirits. Even for house-chores, somehow one is always able to get more things done by listening to music and it helps to make the most tedious of tasks entertaining. So play your favorite tunes and get some thank you notes done.
As you write your notes, take the time to tell your guests how you're enjoying the gift they gave you. This is also an opportunity for you to include an invitation for them to visit you soon. An example of this would be: "Thank you so much for the cookware set. Tom and I have been enjoying ourselves cooking various meals together since the wedding - we hope you'll stop by to have dinner with us real soon."
Finesse The Financial Gifts.
It would look awful to simply write "Thanks for the cash" on your thank you notes, it just doesn't sound right, instead, you can thank a benefactor for his "generous gift," and give him an idea of how you intend to use it: "Michael and I are adding it to our savings toward a new house," or "We raised a glass in you honor at a five-star dinner during our honeymoon." This is an effective and elegant approach to thanking someone for their monetary generosity.
Ah, unfortunately it is bound to happen, one of your guests will probably give you a gift that isn't to you liking, now how should you handle it? Even if you don't like the gift and have already taken it back to the store, you still need to express your appreciation for the effort and thought behind the gift. You could write: "Thank you so much for the elegant vase. We appreciate your taking the time to find us something unique." In situations like these, just limit yourself to keeping your thank you note short and sweet. You don't want to offend anybody and risk having a disagreement or an argument with that person. In the long run, your discretion will spare you the unnecessary headaches.
Now that you know how to write effective thank you notes, there's no better time than the present moment to find some stationary you like and get a few done. You'd be surprised how much you can accomplish by breaking your tasks into smaller chuncks!